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What is Divorce Counselling?

Most often the complications of divorce proceedings mean that the divorcing couple have no choice but to continue further contact in order to make decisions about the future. This can often be painful and difficult, and the emotions involved can make clear-headed decision-making all but impossible.

Divorce counselling aims to help the divorcing couple not just to come to helpful agreements that will allow them to move forward in their lives, but also to examine the emotions involved in their separation so that each partner can achieve a sense of ‘closure.’

Whatever the reason, divorce is most often an extremely stressful experience. In fact, it is estimated that divorce is the number one most stressful life experience that anyone ever has to experience. This stress is exacerbated when there are children involved, and there is a necessity to maintain a reasonable relationship between the divorcing couple. There are specialist divorce solicitors Leeds wide who can offer further advice on protecting the needs of children during divorce. Divorce counselling can allow a couple to communicate without resorting to bitter insults and shouting. Instead, it fosters an atmosphere of openness and honesty where one party will allow the other to clearly voice their feelings on any given issue so they can be addressed by both.

The counsellor will guide the couple to look over the past of their relationship and to see how they have come to this juncture. Instead of feeling angry and blaming each other, divorce counselling aims to help each party see the other’s perspective. If there is any possibility for reconciliation, and if both partners are amenable to this, it will certainly be encouraged by the counsellor. However, if the relationship has been a destructive one, he or she will help them to ‘mourn’ their relationship together and to explore their feelings so that they can come to the stage of acceptance that allows them to remain friends.

Many divorce solicitors in Leeds recommend that counselling is particularly helpful if there are children involved. It is very destructive and traumatic for children to have to witness their parents fight, or for their parents to criticise each other in the presence of the children. A child must be able to respect both their parents for their own self-esteem, and so it’s very important that each partner respects the other’s status as parent despite the flaws in their intimate relationship.

During a divorce process, it can facilitate the use of collaborative law. This is where both partners meet in the presence of their solicitors to attempt to work through their disagreements and come to mutually beneficial agreements on matters such as finances and housing arrangements. Collaborative divorces almost always result in an easier and quicker divorce process, and in one that ends in less bitterness, however they are only possible if both parties have learned to communicate well. A divorce counsellor or mediator can teach them these skills, without ever intervening to give his or her own opinions or legal advice.

If you are thinking about getting divorced and would like to use a lawyer who specialises in collaborative law, contact the family law group Resolution. Their lawyers are trained to encourage their clients to come to mutual agreements, and to consider the emotional impact of their actions. Collaborative divorce solicitors, Leeds as several legal firms who have specialised in this area, can give further information.